“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.“ Proverbs 31:10

FAQs

Questions Regarding the Wife of Noble Character Bible Study

•    How long does it take to complete the Wife of Noble Character workbook?
The recommended time frame is a school year, or September through early May, since it  takes about 25 weeks to teach/study the 15 chapters. This time also allows for weeks off for holidays.  Most chapters need two weeks to complete.

•    Should single women take this study?
Most of the married women who take WONC express that they should have taken it before they got married, and they would have avoided many of the pitfalls and wrong thinking/behavior that ensued. Therefore, the single women taking the study are the wise ones. Also, the study is really a discipleship manual and involves learning about the whole Christian walk, not just the marriage relationship, though the focus is on marriage.

•    Is the study appropriate for new or non-believers?
Absolutely! I wrote the workbook for my neighborhood Bible study, and some of the women  had to go out and buy a Bible for the first time. They loved the study and learned much. There are also always many women taking the class who have been in studies all their lives, and they grow and learn much also.

•    Is WONC just for women in marriage crisis?
Definitely not! It actually is for any woman, regardless of her marital state. The in-depth study and application of God’s Word will help in every area of life, as well as equip her to confidently and biblically help others.

•    Can you do the study on your own?
While you certainly can do the study on your own, it is beneficial to do it with at least one other person so you can have the discussion and accountability. If you are doing it on your own, you will need the answers for the Class Notes and the Love is… sections. Contact me for those if you do not see them online.

•    Why do you say this study is a two year workbook?
Many women take the Wife of Noble Character study a second year in order to absorb and apply the truths more thoroughly. Therefore, they have all new homework that second year by completing the “Advanced” sections of the workbook. The teaching and discussion may be the same as the first year, but there are additional Bible passages to study specifically for that second time through.

•    What structure do you recommend for the weekly meetings?
I believe it is important to have an hour of instruction/teaching/discussion over the workbook homework, followed by 45 minutes of small group discussion/application/accountability over the exercises. Small group leaders need to realize this time is not for them to teach another lesson, but to draw out of the women what God is doing in their lives and hold them accountable in doing the exercises, found at the end of each chapter.

•    Do you have any advice for Small Group Leaders?
Yes. Pray for wisdom and humility and compassion. Really get to know your women and touch base with them during the week. Ask God to give you love and understanding and discernment to  best minister to your group. Be sure you are in the Word, relying on the Lord, and growing yourself. You must lead by example, but not perfection. Be an encourager, but don’t be afraid to lovingly help the women in their progress by holding them accountable and confronting when necessary. Be in control of the small group time, which means controlling the Talkative Tina’s and drawing out the Shy Sheila’s.

•    Do you have any suggestions for the teachers?
Teachers need to be in continual prayer, for without the help of the Lord, we can do nothing. (John 15:5) Teachers need to be aware of their need of grace and dependence on God, while praying for humility, equipping, and compassion. Many women, when studying God’s commands and standards, feel overwhelmed and like failures, so the teacher needs to encourage them that growth is a process, that God is with them to help, encourage, love, and bless, and that none of us will be perfect until heaven. Some teachers may want to purchase the dvds even to help them in preparation to teach each lesson. Of course, preparation of the material as well as using the free Teacher’s Guide is a must. And a final word…be very excited about what God will do in the lives and homes of all involved in the study.

•    Why is this study so powerful and life-changing?
First of all, the study consists of learning what God’s Word says, starting with the topics of obedience and wisdom. Secondly, the study is application driven, which means not only do you learn God’s ways and commands, but you are held accountable to actually do what God says. God blesses and transforms the person who has a teachable, humble heart and who desires to please Him. Thirdly, the study emphasizes finding your needs met in the Lord while learning to truly love others more and more, regardless of how those other people respond. Bottom line, the study is about the absolute TRUTH and authority of God’s Word, and that His purposes for us are perfect.

•    Why do you suggest reading books in addition to doing the study? Isn’t God’s Word enough?
Yes, in God’s Word is all we need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3). However, it is beneficial to learn from wise people whom God has called to teach and encourage others with their writing skills, based on Scriptural truth. The suggested reading helps reinforce and clarify the principles in the study, and I suggest taking about ten minutes of small group time each week for book discussion. The feedback from the women about the books has been very positive.

•    When are you going to have the teaching sessions on DVD?
The DVDs should be available by the fall of 2011. They will consist of 25 one-hour lessons, which cover the entire workbook and study year. Check the website for updates on price and availability.

•    How much time will the homework take?
There are many variables that will affect the homework time required, such as how knowledgeable a person is with the Bible, how proficient a reader, and at what pace the schedule has been set up. However, most weeks you are completing either three or even two days of homework, plus working on a memory verse, doing the exercises, and reading a chapter or two from one of the books. It certainly is not a good idea to wait until the night before class, but 20-30 minutes a day, 4-5 days a week is usually more than enough time.