“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.“ Proverbs 31:10

Suggestions for Use

General comments: While this study may certainly be done by an individual, it is very advantageous to work through it in a group or even with one other person. One main theme of WONC is that we are to be doers of the Word, not just hearers, and there are exercises at the end of each chapter designed to help you apply the truths studied each week. Accountability is important for true and lasting growth.

Time Frame: There are 15 chapters in this workbook. Many of them take two weeks to discuss, therefore, plan on a  nine month, or “school year” time frame in completing it. The chapters that lend themselves best to being covered in one week are chapters 2, 7, 9, 10, 12, and 15. I would suggest making up a schedule for the entire “year”  including the dates for each chapter discussion and the reading assignments. As for homework, when you are spending two weeks on a chapter, do the first three days of lessons the first week and days four and five for the second week. The exception would be Chapter One which has seven days of homework. I wanted to start out the study with permeating ourselves in the Word!

Weekly Format: It is best to plan on an hour for the teaching of the lesson and at least 45 minutes for Small Group. Teaching notes are available online through the website: wifeofnoblecharacter.com

Homework: Depending upon the chapter, for the most part you will have either 2, 3, or 5 days of homework in the workbook, plus the exercises at the end of each chapter, some memory work, and the supplementary reading. Doing it all in one sitting is not recommended! The amount of time it will take each day will vary greatly and will depend also upon your knowledge of Scripture and its truths. But, count on it…you will learn much, be greatly blessed,  and certainly changed!

Workbook Features

Memory Verses: Day One of each chapter has a memory verse in the margin. (In my heart) Each lesson after that has a reminder and place to write out the chapter memory verse. During small group the verses should be practiced and reviewed.

Class Notes: This section is to be filled in during the teaching time. The answers are written in the Teacher’s Guide which is available for free online here on this website.

Digging Deeper: This section is optional and for anyone who chooses to spend some extra time studying whatever topic is being addressed. Since some weeks there are only two days of homework, this gives additional material especially for those weeks.

Advanced: Many women choose to take the study over a second time. The advanced sections give them new homework so they can continue to be in the Word. The material correlates with what the first year students are studying.

Margin quotes and verses: Definitely be sure and read all of these, and the teacher/leader may choose to spend discussion time with some of them.

Exercises: This study is application driven, so make these a priority and hold one another accountable in a loving, gracious manner. The ones marked with wedding rings are for the married only, and some chapters have a “Specially for Singles” section. It is also important to go over the “Previous Exercises” listed at the end of each chapter so as not to forget or neglect those areas.

Supplementary Reading: While the study and application of Scripture is top priority, we can learn much from wise believers. Therefore, I highly recommend these books in order as part of the curriculum:

  • First Year Women: Personality Plus by Florence Littauer
  • How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong by Leslie Vernick
  • For Women Only, by Shaunti Feldhahn, and Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow

Second Year (Advanced) Women: What Did You Expect by Paul Tripp, Sacred Influence by Gary Thomas, and The Language of Sex by Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham. There should be some book discussion each week during small group time.

Small Group Time: If you have over 10 women in your study, it would be best to divide up after the lesson for small group time. If your group is under 10, stay together, but have a definite time period dedicated to address these issues. The small group leader should be a mature, dedicated, loving woman who will care for her group and be a godly example by loving and spurring the women on to further growth through accountability and application of Truth.

Suggested format for Small Group which should follow the teaching time:

  1. Segue from teaching time by sharing a particular verse or truth that impacted you
  2. Warmly greet the women and briefly touch base with any crucial issues
  3. Go over the exercises at the end of the chapter you are on. If you will be starting a new chapter the next week, also go over the new exercises so everyone knows what to start working on. Also, review the “Previous Exercises” listed each week. Have the women choose which one or two from that list they want to focus on. Encourage those who have not completed them to make them a priority the next week.
  4. Allow just a few minutes for book discussion. If you neglect this week after week, it is likely that not as much reading will be accomplished.
  5. Review the memory verses.
  6. Spend time in prayer either as a group or dividing up in two’s and three’s. Use variety.

Warning: The evil one hates this study. You will need to pray much as you work through this material. But God is stronger, higher, able, and in control of all things. He delights in us as we seek His face and respond in obedience. Depend upon Him at all times and just watch what He will do!

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